What people with IBD should know

I am often asked, “What would you tell someone recently diagnosed with IBD?” So, this is what I think you should know! Look out for clickable links in this blog, leading to more detailed information! For many, a definitive diagnosis is a massive relief after a long period of being unwell. This does not mean that acceptance is easy, after all, you have just been diagnosed with a chronic disease which has no cure. Do NOT panic, we’ve got this, life is not over! It is worth pointing out that no two IBD patients’ lives are the same. The disease does not always manifest in the same way, and the fact that a treatment works for one person does not mean it will work for another. This makes IBD notoriously difficult to treat. That said, some IBD patients may have one flare, find the right medication straight away and never have another, and that is fantastic! For the rest of us, being diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease or Ulcerative Colitis may mean some lifestyle changes and som

The rules I TRY to live my life by

It's easier said than done to live every day as though it were your last.

It would mean telling the people you love every single day that you love them.
It would mean eating ALL of your favourite food.
It would mean laughing all day long and not having a bad thought or sad moment.
It would mean telling your friends all of the gossip as and when it happens.
It would mean that your actions had no consequences.

Let's face it, we aren't going to do that! What we can do is make sure that everyone we love does know about it, every single day. I don't mean you have to call or text them every day with those 3 little words, but just by being there throughout the good and the bad times and making sure they know that you're always there.

Don't take people that matter to you for granted. They've stuck around because they want to be there so let them, and make sure they know that they are wanted there too.

If you get the chance to do something nice for someone then do it.

If a friend says they need to talk, don't be too tired and call tomorrow because they need you today.

If you have a crush on someone and you don't know if they feel the same way then tell them. It could be the beginning of something beautiful. If it isn't at least you'll not be left wondering what if.

If you want to be with someone but something is standing in your way, whether it be fear of getting hurt, risking failure or even another person, screw it, just do it.

People that make you happy are not something that you come across every day. You can't just find another one. They're precious and rare. Do everything within your power to keep them.

Happiness is what keeps you going. Faith in other people rather than just yourself. Faith in yourself alone will just leave you lonely and the people that you care about will be lonely too.

If something makes you unhappy then cut it out. Unhappiness is like cancer. It may start small, but the longer it is not dealt with the bigger it becomes.

Don't let anger and resentment fill your time. What's done is done and nothing you can do will ever reverse the past, but you can't let it ruin your future. Don't give them the power to cause you pain.

Don't let the negative actions of some taint your view of others. Yes, there are bad people, but there are also great people, and you will never differentiate between the two if you don't give people a chance.

Don't let the bad things that have happened to you rule your head. Your thoughts are your own and they are unique. Mould them into lessons learned and take what you need from them, and the scrap the rest.

Don't work in a job that your heart is not in because you spend so much of your life there!

Never regret anything that you've done because at the time it was the right thing to do for you, otherwise, you wouldn't have done it. It's all leading you to where you need to be and teaching what you need to be taught along the way.

Trust in yourself to make your own decisions. You will make mistakes, but you will make them in a way that only you can.

Don't cry for yesterday when you can live for today.

Don't surrender to the ideas and thoughts of others when the pressure is on. Stand up for yourself and what you believe is right.

Live your life as you see fit because no one can live it for you. There are no right and wrong choices, there are only yours.

Keep the faith.
Forget the sorrow.
Feel the love.
Believe in tomorrow.

Live your life in the way only you know how.